It is not okay to HATE Feminists!!

I sometimes feel like I really am living in the Emerald City, not the pleasant nickname of Seattle, but in the merry land of Oz populated by mostly midgets because this world we all are living in now is not the same one I grew up in. 💁 Sure, I've been an adult for 20 years and in those 20 years technology has changed just about everything but for the most part it has brought the human race closer towards a general consensus about certain things such as this declaration written in 1848:

We hold these truths to be self-evident: that all men and women are created equal; that they are endowed by their creator with certain inalienable rights; that among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.

Living on Earth approx. 40 years ago in the USA one thing was adamantly taught to us children and made perfectly clear to me: Women are equal to Men and are to be treated with respect and dignity. So why or how all of a sudden now in 2018 I'm told by one of my tinder matches that he's "not interested in feminists." 😐 Is this part of the Russian brainwashing that managed to get Trump elected? I don't care how much you might hate Hilary Clinton for whatever reason, she was not at all campaigning on a platform of feminism! I have to say I respect her for that because she too thought that would have been backwards and her actual real experience in politics would stand for itself. Apparently not because any man right now would launch into some crooked corruption rhetoric which will be funny once Mueller's investigation is done and we all know just how crooked Trump is. Maybe they both are/were? Doesn't matter! It was a year ago.

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When the term feminism first entered English toward the mid-19th century, it meant “feminine qualities or character,” a sense no longer in use. (Its companion term, feminist, also entered the language around that time, but it is not certain whether it was then used to mean anything other than “feminine or womanly.”)However, toward the end of the 19th century, both feminism and feminist unambiguously took on their modern meanings related to equal rights for women. source: http://www.dictionary.com/browse/feminist 

To say that you hate feminist is saying you won't tolerate a woman standing up for her personal rights: the right to be the only one who says what she can and can't do with her body throughout the course of her life. Women are not men's property like a pet or a slave to use and control! Women should also be paid equal to men because gone are the days of hard manual labor where it could maybe have been said woman are less productive in lifting large objects. Anyone sitting on their ass staring at a computer all day for work is no more or less superior for having a penis attached. Men don't want a test comparison in productivity between genders anymore because you know you would be shamed but women don't wish to harm your fragile egos! They just want an equal chance at the pursuit of happiness if they're going to have to go the whole way alone and not work together with an equal partner which is looking like it lately 😔💔...

This brings me to dating but no, finishing politics first. There seems to be this perception of a hairy armed hippie chic from the 70's or bull dyke lesbian man hater in the eyes of straight hetero cis men (gay guys will just giggle at you if you look to them for back-up and maybe say "ew!" but they mean that differently than you'd assume..) I am not going to get into abortion here other than to say that it is used to divide women from those who realize God is obviously not going to intervene when it comes to our life here on Earth and when you are poor struggling to eat and have somewhere to live, you know sometimes in order to survive you have to make decisions for what you emotionally & physically can handle. If you are being abused by a man whom you fear may kill you and pregnant with his child, the smartest choice for your survival is escape with no ties to him at all so that you have the full support of the law behind you. Everyone knows that child legally binds you to a person for 18 years unless they waive their own rights or have them removed by a court of law. Both options are extremely hazardous to either your emotional and/or physical safety especially if you can barely feed yourself and can only stay somewhere if you're quiet and not annoying anybody. 😩🙅

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There have been a very small handful of ultra conservative politically or religiously motivated women who have claimed under pressure of men most likely, or their party to say they are not "feminist" which means they are Stepford Wives. Seriously! This does not make it okay to try to be divisive on the word "feminism" which once again means "having the characteristics associated with females" as in being into girly stuff. It's okay for you to say you didn't play with dolls and you don't wear pink but it's not okay to say on a dating site where you're trying to persuade women to at the very least have sex with you that you hate women who wear pink and you're not interested in them if they're into it.

💥THAT IS BEING A NASTY BULLY! 😡

Do you think that the world will honestly be a better place if we go back to the days when women are owned by their husbands and you only get the one and that's it but they will do whatever you want them to do without any game? If you want "variety" you have to go fight another one's husband so no more bro-mances, you're mortal enemies in defending your fortress you had to build by yourself with your hands... See! Women's equality isn't so bad now, is it? 🙆✌

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Top 3 Reasons why Women don't Respond to you on Tinder

Reasons Why Girls Don't Respond on Tinder

1.) We have too many options. Apparently the male to female ratio on Tinder is around 10 to 1. This means for every match you acquire she just acquired 10 new matches to try to respond to. In 3 days I acquired 37 new matches and I'm using a cheater app where I can flip through candidates without having to make a final decision to try to SLOW DOWN the process. Men on the other hand use cheater apps to try to increase their matches by liking large quantities at a time. If a woman was to do this she would easily have over a hundred matches by a week no matter how attractive she is or isn't but as you guys know, if she were to attempt to converse with all of them yet is not attractive she would be unmatched or ignored as men aren't any better than we are at responding on there even having far less quantity to have to deal with. 

2.) You didn't give us enough of a hook to lure us in either your profile blurb or your personal intro to us or both. Let's see.. you climb mountains, go fishing, like football (GO HAWKS!), enjoyed a day on a boat once, like the outdoors, are adventurous, you're new to Seattle (like 30,000 other tech workers) have a car, and a job (we got it), a bunch of friends, a hot ex, are totally happy with yourself so you're quite the catch, aren't you? You and precisely 80% of the other men who are also hot in sunglasses and baseball caps or sunglasses with beards. You're smart, do the math! For every message you send we have to respond to 10. That means we need to use discernment and after the 4th or 5th "Hey! How's it going?" that has nothing interesting or different for a subject which we can attempt to strike up an actual reasonably real conversation, we're out! No more "Hi. Pretty good, dude. How are you?" 

3.) You didn't give them good enough pictures to be able to tell what you really look like. Sure, a little mystery is alluring. A side profile staring in the sunset, a hot body jumping off a cliff, a painting presumably yours since you claim to be an artist, another backlit profile artsy image of band playing live and presumably the forefront microphone passionately singing one is you though the hair is different from the first image. We're interested! Musicians are hot! But why did you not give us an honest, normal, well lit, head on, semi close up/selfie (not mirror selfie body with your phone blocking your face) range shot? This is pretty much a minor form of catfishing, we'll call it jellyfishing: pretty from a distance but guaranteed to have a stinger somewhere. 

how to quickly get to know your date

This is going to sound pretty terrible to even suggest, but the best way to really get to know someone you're dating, and cut to the chase without having to go through months of politely getting to know them... 

..is to (accidentally) stand them up! 

Seriously, all the shit flies out in an instant! IF they handle it without losing their cool, AND they're willing to forgive you, you have got one good prospect on your hands and you should consider them a keeper. 

BUT if they behave as mine did who I did not actually intend to stand up and honestly thought had either not received my rendezvous instructions yet or was blowing me off.. but I care not to explain how his assumptions were incorrect (to him) because I realized by him absolutely jumping to conclusions and FREAKING OUT about it, he is not emotionally mature enough to date plus he apparently was dumped 2 days ago though we'd been talking to each other for over a week..? I'm not even sure how else to take his pity party over texting that's still continuing as we speak the day after other than "ba-bye"

Larger than Life

Where have all the good men gone
And where are all the gods?
Where's the street-wise Hercules
To fight the rising odds?
Isn't there a white knight upon a fiery steed?
Late at night I toss and I turn and I dream of what I need

I need a hero!
I'm holding out for a hero 'til the end of the night
He's gotta be strong
And he's gotta be fast
And he's gotta be fresh from the fight

puh-lease...

I need a hero
I'm holding out for a hero 'til the morning light
He's gotta be sure
And it's gotta be soon
And he's gotta be larger than life. 

What was the bang?

SO I WAS ASKED ~ 

  "And what brings you to tinder?  Conversation?  Friends?  Drinks?  Needing to bang one out?"

MY RESPONSE ~

Well first of all women don't EVER "need to bang one out" pretty sure that involves a penis, hand, and perhaps a porn pic or something to that extent? I wouldn't know.. but it sounds like a problem you guys are on your own with. 

Next I hardly think tinder would be a very good source for finding lasting friendship. Is there even such a thing as REAL friendship in the days of Facebook? I'm unsure. Seems some of my "friends" do indeed have friends they regularly spend time with and have known for many years. I have basically my family of friends who I mostly haven't seen in YEARS since they moved to the woods and starting raising hippie kids. Then I have a shit ton of acquaintances everywhere I go! I don't have single super close consistent friend who I frequently do things with, I'm independent but lonely in a crowd that I personally know half of. Would like one but....

Conversation, meh. Acquaintances and random stranger work fine for such stuff. 

 Drinks? Yes!

Now you left some options out if you can believe it. A fuck/get laid/hook up or anything but "bang one out" Not opposed after drinks perhaps see where it goes. 

And last, relationship. I know, I know, go ahead and chastise me back as I certainly deserve it after this novel reply... but I want one of those. So if the bang is worth a few bucks (ah!) NO.. if the chemistry is present, and there's intrigue, then the sex is spot on and other factors after that which is usually where everything goes horribly wrong but regardless it would be righteous if the sex became frequent and the company didn't suck too and became a healthy-ish habit etc etc. 

Happy? Have a good boom bang crackle woo k (July 4th)

Tinder turns men into morons

The perception that Tinder is for "hook ups" seems to turn men into boys at a all you can eat ice cream fudge sundae banana split bar until they fail to notice that they have become fat gross pigs OR reverts them back into virgins not knowing a single thing of how to handle an encounter with a potential sexual partner! Here's how I handled one of the later who after carefully picking a date and planning to spend an evening with me very patiently and gentlemanly decided to text me under an hour prior to arrival asking if I am clean or not and how do I feel about condoms?!

Lxxx, if you read my little profile bit you would see that I'm not looking for hook ups here at all! No one has any business enquiring of my cleanliness when they have never even laid eyes on me in person, that shouldn't even be a concern until you're at least within projectile body fluid landing range of them otherwise it's just plain impolite.. and asking me if I mind condoms before you've scored the first kiss is equally quite presumptuous even if I were entertaining for straight hook up purposes only because a passing a picture test doesn't mean you will turn me on.. it just means I'm willing to take a closer look and see if you smell good and are capable of carrying on a conversation and hang out and chill first.. then if that goes well enough after a few hours you should be able to tell if I'm interested in kissing you and if you that much well enough and I'm obviously not trying to make the kissing stop and appear to be a willingly passionate participant in having you all up in my grill invading my personal space, breathing the same air, exchanging spit, THEN you can ask about your dick and my disease status!! Got it??

OK Stupid

I utterly can't can't believe I'm doing this shit again... Online dating! Wtf. Took a stab at this new one I saw on the news because it kinda made sense. I somehow accidentally bumped open an email in my junk box and reopened my OK Stupid account and immediately got the flood of "Hey how you doing this evening.." messages. After dabbling around without a little it all came back to me pretty quick my experience with it oh about 4-5 years ago! Users fill out a long ass series of political, moral, and situational multiple choice questions and then choose how their "ideal partner" would answer and then rate how important it is for them to respond that way supposedly creating a match percentage, as well as friendship, and enemy likelihood where the deal breakers may lay. It's a sophisticated algorithm that in theory should work great. But then I look back on the most fulfilling, dynamic, and passionate loves of my life and realize none of them would have scored any higher than a 70% match nor less than a 10% enemy with me because it wasn't our identical views of the world that gave us chemistry. It was our differences combined with shear raw physical attraction that made it interesting! OK Cupid was/is brilliant at finding me carbon copy thinkers as me who make excellent cathartic pen pals that unfortunately gets my hopes up that I've magically found someone spectacularly special amongst this sea of coded monotony. Then it all builds up to the big first face to face meet up or "date" that instantly deflates within the first 3 min (or 3 sec) when I realize despite all romantic intentions I'm simply not attracted to them. I have particular taste! At which point I either part ways with a disappointed puppy or manage to make a really decent friend. I've noticed it's the ones who usually manage to string along a conversation somehow long enough to suggest having a fuck it why not beer that I end up being more likely to find attractive enough to at least get laid before parting ways. The truth of the matter is regardless how we may deem it shallow you just can't substitute substance for sexual chemistry.

So this other app thing goes for the absolute opposite approach and users start out with selecting one to six of their Facebook images and without having the obligation to read those awkward unrealistic bios make snap decisions based on first impression appearances whether to pass or take and mutual acceptances then make you a "match" where you're then almost instantly prompted to try and strike up an IM style conversation with what extremely limited observational info you could ascertain. Yay! The site seems to attract nothing but baseball cap wearing, cheap beer swilling, jocko frat boy types mixed with the occasional geeky granola glasses wearing Seattle bearded hipster boy that always seem to carry little excess weight hanging over the waist of their khaki shorts. Not my type even remotely! No matter how much I might be entralled with someone's brain I am purely only attracted to the tall dark and handsome cliche with the added preference of tall, *thin* and handsome with *long* dark hair. Can't help it. It is what it is. The of course I lean toward the artistical musician type in black with black boots WAY more than the baseball cap, shorts, jerseys, and tennis shoes or hiking boots variety. Men who wear sandals is a deal breaker for me. Boots, barefoot, or go home! I'm ashamed to say...

So big strike out on the online dating scene except for running into online who I've had eyes on which perhaps will serve as a wake up call that we've been looking for what's already been there.. But likely it will take a whole lot more of horrible mistakes and experiences before we concede that way. Fml